A couple of weeks back, I went to watch a documentary and beside the interestingness of it, I absolutely loved the settings of the feedback/discussion session.
Four drivers were stated:
Whoever comes are the right people.
Whatever happens is the only thing that could have.
Whenever it starts is the right time.
When it’s over it’s over.
We wrote down the first 4-5 topics raised by the audience and then we split in groups. You could join any of the groups if the topic interested you and change it later if the debate didn’t interest you anymore.
I was a bit skeptical to the idea of setting these (sort of) non-rules. I always had the impression that too much freedom creates confusion. But, it surely worked! People engaged in discussions, had ideas, expressed opinions, wrote down conclusions or open questions or continued the talks outside the screening room.
What it was added right from the start was meaning. If a topic is meaningful for someone he/she will be engaged, will add value to it. Also, if something becomes meaningless one can move away from it or even comeback if necessary. The four drivers became permissions who lead one to get the full out of a given situation.
Rules are usually made to set limitations. Non-rules to leave yourself to set the limitations you need.
I think it was one of the best way to apply “let it be”.